Mind the Gap: Structure-Aware Consistency in Preference Learning

Proceedings of the 43rd International Conference on Machine Learning (ICML 2026)

Abstract

Aligning Large Language Models (LLMs) with human intent, whether through explicit reward modeling or direct methods such as DPO, fundamentally relies on minimizing a surrogate loss as a proxy for the true pairwise ranking objective. We prove that this reliance is flawed for the standard surrogate losses used: for the equicontinuous hypothesis sets characteristic of neural networks, no standard surrogate provides a meaningful consistency guarantee. Minimizing the surrogate loss to zero can leave the true ranking error arbitrarily high. To resolve this, we formulate LLM alignment within a margin-shifted ranking framework and derive $H$-consistency bounds showing that enforcing a confidence margin $\gamma$ is not merely beneficial but necessary for consistency. We further introduce Structure-Aware $H$-consistency and a corresponding objective (SA-DPO) that adapts the margin to the semantic distance between responses, preventing instability on near-synonymous pairs. Finally, we analyze the trade-off between the margin required for consistency and the model's finite capacity to satisfy it, revealing a strict hierarchy of surrogate losses: heavy-tailed surrogates (e.g., the Polynomial Hinge family) offer strictly superior consistency guarantees for capacity-bounded models compared to the logistic loss used in DPO. Experiments on UltraFeedback and Argilla DPO-Mix-7k confirm that SA-DPO consistently outperforms DPO and SimPO, with a 58.5% head-to-head win-rate in downstream generation quality.
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